The relocation has brought along so much opportunities: shorter travel time, a lot of venues to choose from, diverse demographics, abundance of hot chicks, etc.
However, while I was able to triple the number of approaches compare to what I used to deliver back in PJ, my game still remained stagnant.
I've done 72 approaches since the beginning of June, and I couldn't get any of the girls out on a date yet, except one insta-date with an 18 years old Japanese (who had a bf).
Almost had a date with a hot Thai business woman, but never happened due to miscommunication and a texting error from my side. She enthusiastically agreed to a reschedule, but never responded to my date confirmation yesterday. Quite unexpected giving the rapport we built over text (which wasn't too much to kill attraction anyway).
I was supposed to have another date with a Sabahan hairdresser last Friday, but she was down with migraine. She had a legitimate excuse as she sent me a selfie of her in bed, and she looked like a wreck.
On the positive side, I can see a lot of improvements on my game-optimized lifestyle:
1. I'm approaching A LOT more than I used to. Average 6-15 approaches per session
2. I've grown comfortable approaching outside malls. I've done sets on the streets, coffee shops, train stations, clothing store, etc
3. My style has matured and developed a good sense of fashion. I now shave zero, wear accessories, look fit, and feel like the most attractive man walking on the street.
4. I've started a better job with better pay. I'm particularly happy with this as it was along-waited progress in my career
Nonetheless, despite the spike in my SMV, my game still holding me back from getting laid, or at least return to my pre-relationship days of glory.
And here is a list of long standing sticking points that I'm still struggling to FIX:
1. Poor conversation skills
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Starting and maintaining a fun & flirtatious conversation has been the most difficult part of the game for me. Being an "proud" introvert starting to show its ugly face.
Getting the girl from a hesitant "yes" to "HELL YES!" in the span of minutes is something that I've only been able to achieve by accident or pure chance.
80-90% of interactions with a girl (excluding blowouts) goes like this:
* Girl reacts to compliment
* I ask her a question
* She responds
* She ask a common question
* I respond and talk about myself
* she goes silent
* I FEEL the window of attraction closing, I ask random question
* She responds
* She says she need to go bla bla
* GAME OVER
* I get her number
* I text her same day or next day
* She doesn't reply OR reply 24 hours later
I'm definitely not happy with this, but at least I've been able to pinpoint the causes of why my conversation skills fails to create any meaningful, MEMORABLE interactions.
Here is a few:
* Not making her the CENTRE of the conversation
* Wasting the valuable first 30 seconds asking questions about things that don't excite her "her job", "study"
* Asking her to guess my country in response to "where you from?" at least 15 seconds is wasted here... and in the end, it puts a lot of pressure on the girl. Some of them are scared to offend me if they guess wrongly (true story). Not that I care.
* Giving too much information about myself, and as a result, reducing her curiosity level
In reality, not all girls that pay attention to me are not willing to invest in a conversation. Some are just not interested and too polite to eject. Those are out of the scope of my concern.
But for girls that reciprocate by showing positive initial reaction and investing, I should work my ass off to achieve the following, consistently:
* Make an effort to cold-read her and prepare topics about her looks e.g. "carrying her laptop like a baby, walking like a soldier, etc"
* Make a conscious effort to keep the conversation 80% about her. By the end of the encounter, I should know more about her than her about me
* Make a conscious effort to not reveal too much info about myself and, instead, leave her wondering, and thinking about me (investment)
* Maintain everything else that I've improved (body language, strong eye contact, proximity, etc)
* Travel around and experience the world (as far as my passport can take me)
* Achieve at 2 solid memorable sets in which I FEEL that the girls are excited to see me again
Given that conversation skill is my deadliest sticking point (jokes aside), I'll dedicate the rest of this year to learn how to improve it. Not just for the game but for life in general.
Stats (17-23 June):
37 approaches
5 numbers
1 IG
2 replies
0 dates
1 active lead
Sticking points:
- Bad conversation skills
- Not utilizing first 30 seconds effectively
- Not un-muting phone before a date
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| Nope! I couldn't fuck this one |
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