A decent week so far with few firsts. I got my first number from a supermarket approach that happened naturally, the first reply from an IG lead, and, probably, the first time that I did > 30 sets a week for 2 week streak.
Nonetheless, I still couldn't get a date this week, I was supposed to have a date on Friday with the Thai girl from last week (who messaged me mid week to meet up) but it didn't happen due to bad logistics.
Game-wise, I can see some development in my gaming style that is creating better reactions from girls. I'm focusing less on what to say (stacking, teasing, etc) and more on the energy that I deliver during the first few seconds of a set. Nonetheless, I see few issues that popped up this week and some lingering issues that I still need to fix once and for all.
The good:
- Increased in spontaneity. I see a hot girl outside a session (and she is by herself), I don't hesitate to approach
- I stopped relying on my standard "job" stacking, and instead stack on other things that are more personal and unique to her, e.g. her nationality, outfit, etc. Though, sometimes forget and regress.
- I put more energy and focus in how I stop the girl. I stopped using "excuse me" and replaced it with a strong audible "Hey" accompanied by a hand wave (in case she is wearing a earphones). I can't say if it's more effective than the older approach, but it certainly makes me feel better (and more masculine) than when I say excuse me.
- My texting style has improved a bit and starting to mature. In the past, I was quite uncertain on what to say or how to respond to certain text. Now, starting to get a glimpse on what works and what doesn't
- Starting to get really good in observing girls and preparing stack topic
The bad:
- Even though I stack less on job, I occasionally slip back to my old habit and ask a girl what she does or guess it.
- After listening to some of my recorded sets, noticed that my conversation overlaps with the girl's. Can't believe this is still happening. I thought I fixed it issue. Need to pay more attention to this as it's very problematic
- Also after listening to my recording, noticed that I say "yeah" after I finish my sentence. Another thing to fix
- I'm occasionally making the silly mistake of trying to game a girl over text. I did so on a girl who wasn't investing much, and needless to say, she is gone. But in a way, can't blame myself as I'm yet to figure out how to deal with girls that give very short responses that are hard to work with, or girls that don't invest at all or ask questions.
- While not critical in building attraction, my conversation skills still need polishing. Something to work on both in field and out of it
- I need to spend some time preparing stories & stacking material about many things: countries, places, food, pop culture, etc so I can related better with girls
Memorable sets:
Ukrainian expat
Saw her buy a Macha in the venue, and approached her outside the mall. She was wearing tight green pant and had a great figure which couldn't escape my radar. But when opened her, realized she looked a bit older up close. Possibly mid-thirties.
I teased her on how her drink and her outfit of the same color. She didn't seem very keen at first, and I made the mistake of lying of being a traveler (projecting myself as r-selected).
Convo-wise, I couldn't stack on Ukraine, cus I don't know much about the country. I need to do my homework on this. After I closed her, she started asking me K-selected questions: how long you gonna be here? Do you like it here? etc.
Salesforce girl
I was quite hesitant to approach this one as, for a second, thought she was a ladyboy as she had noticeably broad shoulders. But she was damn hot, so I took my chances and opened her inside the mall. She hooked quite nicely and was very friendly. Told her she look like she just came from a nice party. She said she was hanging out with friends.
Though I liked her vibe, I felt something was off. There was a masculine undertone in how she communicated. And that become quickly apparent as the conversation suddenly become about our work. But, in a way, I don't blame her as I should've avoided talking about jobs (at all cost) and make the convo fully or mostly about her, her outfit, where she is from, etc
Kazakh girl
My favorite set of the week, and 2nd set that felt like "man to women". Prior to approaching her, I got few girls that didn't stop when I approach them with "excuse me", I got frustrated and decided go approach more assertively with a strong "Hey!" I did so with the this girl and at first she looked a bit startled, but I as I shifted my energy to a warm opener.
She responded well. Asked her where she is from and she smiled and told me to guess. My eyes were locked on hers, but through my peripheral vision, I could see so much activity going on down below. She was crossing and uncrossing her legs, tilting her hips left and right.
I kinda of blanked out mid-set, but managed to close. Asked for her Whatsapp, but she said she smiled (looked a way) and said she doesn't use it. (probably lying). Then I settled for IG.
Texted her the following day and she was quite responsive. We decided to meet after she return from a short trip. She will be in KL for another week so I'm in a race against time with this one.
Siberian girl
A very interesting set. I saw her walk into Parkson department store, where I approached her. She was quite calm and comfortable with how close I was to her. We had brief chat on our countries, but somewhere in set, she started losing interest.
Then I dropped the dookie. I haven't listened to the recording yet, but if I recall, here is what happened next.
I asked her "what do you do?" She looked at me with narrow eyes "Why? Why do you asking me that?" I was quite shocked at how blunt she was. But then, I remembered some story that Mark Manson mentioned in one of his books in which a Russian girl he was dating said (in response to something he said) that it was "stupid" and he almost spat his drink.
I didn't know how to react, so I just told her, it's not out of the ordinary that people in Malaysia ask strangers what they do. And asserted that it could be inappropriate in Russia, but not necessarily in other parts of the world.
She wanted to leave earlier. So I insisted on closing. "ah... you are so persistent". Eventually she opened her WA and I copied the number.
Stats (24 - 28 June):
30 Approaches
4 numbers
1 IG
3 replies
0 dates
2 active leads
